[Well. That sure is a lot to unpack. Max stays quiet a moment trying to sort through it all to find the most important issues to address. Emotional triage, as it were.]
Okay. So it sounds like the two of you had different expectations for the relationship that you didn't really talk out beforehand. Look, I'm not judging you on that. I've made my own blunders.
[Milla comes to mind immediately.]
But, f you ask me, the most important thing you need to answer for yourself is this: what DO you want this woman to be to you? Now, before you answer take a moment to think about it. Really think about it.
Keep in mind that the things that happen here don't count back home. So, forget what your dad would want. Forget what your family or friends would want. What would YOU want? If every single possibility was open to you? If you could have anything at all with no consequences...what would you pick?
Just say it. Doesn't matter if you can't have it. Just tell me: Would you stay with this woman? Yes or no?
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Date: 2020-10-09 05:45 pm (UTC)Okay. So it sounds like the two of you had different expectations for the relationship that you didn't really talk out beforehand. Look, I'm not judging you on that. I've made my own blunders.
[Milla comes to mind immediately.]
But, f you ask me, the most important thing you need to answer for yourself is this: what DO you want this woman to be to you? Now, before you answer take a moment to think about it. Really think about it.
Keep in mind that the things that happen here don't count back home. So, forget what your dad would want. Forget what your family or friends would want. What would YOU want? If every single possibility was open to you? If you could have anything at all with no consequences...what would you pick?
Just say it. Doesn't matter if you can't have it. Just tell me: Would you stay with this woman? Yes or no?